Heartfelt and authentic

This here is not a meet-market.

Keeping it fun, this current website
is just a quick scrap pad.

The topic feels good and deep,
as an invitation to shamelessly
share and experience with
an open heart and mind.


Like always, many cans of worms,
but let’s keep it practical!

  • A passion for practical peace!

    My name is Holger, I am currently in an easy, loving, respectful divorce (after 13+ years). Full of gratitude for the gift of friendship, mind and speech. Such an important topic, this mating thingy! Doesn’t it affect all areas of life, peace, maturity, joy, health, energy? No claim to fame, I just want to listen…

  • Girls and women

    “… to prepare the way for, the love that consists in two solitudes protecting, defining and welcoming one another.”

  • Sacred Relationships?

    As a draft: Sacred relationship = A living/teaming/learning together where Presence is more important than pleasing, pleasure, expectations, attachments.

  • The human mating process

    “The human mating process encompasses the social and cultural processes whereby one person may meet another to assess suitability, the courtship process and the process of forming an interpersonal relationship.”

  • I don’t know

    Not lost in the chit-chat of the mind, but still, open, available, vulnerable. Shamelessly resting in being; effortlessly. Instead I always ran away from no-thing, it felt awkward when there was no content, when mind had nothing to do. What an interesting thing this me-chanism of the person! And how long we can suffer until…

  • Loving us

    Thank you Deanna, for touching my heart so deeply. So amazing this feeling of being “safe with you”, so sweet, so delicious, priceless. Safe in myself, not two, no need to hide anything, nothing to defend, nothing missing!